1.  COMMUNICATE THROUGH TEXT MESSAGING ​ By communicating in writing, all communication you have with your Ex is documented and can be used as evidence if needed. It will also prevent your Ex from misstating anything you have said and save the time stamp of the conversation.

2.   LIMIT SOCIAL MEDIA USAGE ​ Posting photos and statuses in fun, but they can all be used against you.  It is often smarter to not post anything than to try to post happy or fun statuses because often an event that was fun for you can be misconstrued and give a negative appearance.  ​

3.  START A JOURNAL   By writing down everything, you are ensured that you will not forget when or how something occurred.  Many times people will actually get a calendar and put things on it as events occur.  When trial comes, this calendar is very beneficial and shows supporting evidence that your story is accurate true.  

​4.  TAKE PHOTOS ​  Take photos of your child, your home and any place you frequently take your child such as daycare.  These photos can be used to contradict any claim that your child is in danger in your custody  

5.  USE AUDIO RECORDINGS ​  In Oklahoma, only one party needs to know that a conversation is being recorded.  There are multiple free apps you can download and record a conversation or a fight that can be used later. Any time you interact with your Ex, record the interaction.  This can be used as evidence at trial if your stories do not match up.   ​​​​